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Am I the only one?: when harry met smcUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-29993755808053090132010-10-15T07:33:52.013-07:002010-10-15T07:33:52.013-07:00after our "exclusive" conversation ended...after our "exclusive" conversation ended so badly, i send him a short email explaining how i enjoyed our date and would like to see him again, but that i didnt think it was wise to move so fast. he never responded.<br />i just figure if he is not open to my point of view and doesnt want to understand how i think and feel-it will never work in the long run.<br />i tried to be sensitive to his feelings-thinking(like you said tripp)that he might have felt rejected-so i tried to explain that i wasnt rejecting him, just exclusivity. for now. not taking it off the table for good or anything like that. sigh.noybhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12677268663318440222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-77705734515564079272010-10-14T17:32:30.354-07:002010-10-14T17:32:30.354-07:00Tripp may be right. I'd say it's worth a s...Tripp may be right. I'd say it's worth a shot if you think it is, SMC.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008163305345786350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-4034119697078106002010-10-14T14:12:32.170-07:002010-10-14T14:12:32.170-07:00While I am not saying that Harry isn't totally...While I am not saying that Harry isn't totally crazy, I can kinda see what is going on here. Harry enjoyed the date a lot. My guess is that in the past, Harry took his time with a girl (i.e., he undercommitted) and it burned him. His natural reaction is to do just the opposite. I have definitely dome something extreme like that because I thought maybe doing something so opposite from what I normally do might help. Of course it doesnt but love and dating is not something most of us are good at. The moment we have anything at all figured out, we end up married and out of the game. Plus the rules are always changing on us. <br /><br />I think that Harry put himself out there a little. It was too much for you but in his mind, he was showing a committment. Here's what happened, you scoffed at him and he saw it as a type of rejection. I am almost sure it hurt his feelings. Nobody wants to be rejected. I suggest you call him or text him and ask him out. I think it will show him that you are interested (and that he misinterpreted your actions).Tripp Hazardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16897497204956695802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-54907238298696126622010-10-12T14:25:44.158-07:002010-10-12T14:25:44.158-07:00i dont think it has anything to do with biological...i dont think it has anything to do with biological clocks. he is just in a rush. seal the deal, so to say. <br />i dont think i would drag anything out too long, but i think you have to have a few dates before you can have the dtr. sigh.singlemormonchickhttp://www.singlemormonchick.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-57431153865869207612010-10-12T11:47:40.878-07:002010-10-12T11:47:40.878-07:00What a pity. It was going so well. I wonder why he...What a pity. It was going so well. I wonder why he was so impatient to make it exclusive. Did he think your reluctance to commit so soon meant "get lost"? Or were his motives less than honorable? Or was it something completely different? It's puzzling, but I suppose now it's moot.<br /><br />May you find someone who's everything you wanted and everything he appears to be.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008163305345786350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-78045963161740447662010-10-11T21:14:42.215-07:002010-10-11T21:14:42.215-07:00First, 'When Harry Met Sally' is definitel...First, 'When Harry Met Sally' is definitely one of my Top 3 favorite "chick-flicks".<br /><br />Second, I realize you respective biological clocks are ticking, but what's up with the speed things seem to move? That's a pretty serious e-mail for after a first date. I will usually text "I had a great time tonight, I hope we can do it again sometime." and leave it at that. I feel it's good because it doesn't require a response, it can be left like it is.<br /><br />Then again I'm the type who takes his time. While Hannah and I were becoming friends right before we started dating, we even set each other up on blind dates and went on a double-blind(as we called it). We were together close to every other day for almost 4 months before we became 'exclusive.'<br /><br />I don't know how it is with 'you kids' today though.Waited For a Sister Missionaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13572184650151693614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-22614603962924062782010-10-11T20:57:38.777-07:002010-10-11T20:57:38.777-07:00I think exclusivity after one date is really stran...I think exclusivity after one date is really strange...don't second guess yourself. Keep looking :)wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05515757672265362166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-28412578943272998512010-10-10T07:39:51.423-07:002010-10-10T07:39:51.423-07:00i know, weird, huh? yeah, the misspelling bugged ...i know, weird, huh? yeah, the misspelling bugged me too, but i try not to get too judge-y with men and spelling. especially older guys who didnt grow up with spell check. lolnoybhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12677268663318440222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-36436504991193705632010-10-10T05:31:48.188-07:002010-10-10T05:31:48.188-07:00Huh. I don't know what to make of it. But &q...Huh. I don't know what to make of it. But "loose" you would be a near deal breaker for me. One of my biggest pet peeves.Midwayedancerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12696271002779387847noreply@blogger.com