tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post6267327072760353811..comments2023-06-15T06:44:35.551-07:00Comments on The Law of Chastity and the modern Mormon girl. Am I the only one?: as a man thinketh, so is he...Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-45446173674614968852010-01-15T15:18:32.357-08:002010-01-15T15:18:32.357-08:00who marries a jerk on purpose? ;-) i am sure ther...who marries a jerk on purpose? ;-) i am sure there is some self punishing person who seeks that kind of person out to somehow redeem themselves or to feel needed or some other passive aggressive/co-dependent craziness, but not this girl!<br />i totally agree with the whole concept of working to be the right person as opposed to looking for the right person. self awareness and working on your own baggage and issues is key.<br />i am finding even the "good" ones seem to be faking and effectively putting up a facade in order to distract from their true nature.<br />we all have to take responsibility, but when you are on the look out for the red flags and asking all the right questions AND still get a jerk dressed in nice guy clothes, it gets so discouraging. and exhausting. BITTER! PARTY OF ONE!noybhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12677268663318440222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-1373574375508839212010-01-14T09:19:35.182-08:002010-01-14T09:19:35.182-08:00I agree that it is the adversary. There are lots ...I agree that it is the adversary. There are lots of great relationships out there, including mine of 27 years. We have more fun and are more in love now than when we first got married. Don't let a few bad ones spoil the view.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-15680882684662808392010-01-14T04:37:55.912-08:002010-01-14T04:37:55.912-08:00I like what the therapist said. Marriage can be w...I like what the therapist said. Marriage can be wonderful. But when it's absolute hell, maybe one should call it quits...Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08338688515732965297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-42438274290468023882010-01-13T21:11:28.038-08:002010-01-13T21:11:28.038-08:00I think it is very much the adversary working on y...I think it is very much the adversary working on you. I work as a marriage and family therapist and I see the horrors that can happen in marriage all day every day. Yet I also get to see when it is amazing and the closeness that couples can have when they work through the hard stuff. The important part for you would be to make sure you choose well. Don't choose out of fear because that won't go well either, but make sure that you are being your authentic self in the relationship and so is he. Make sure that you are both going the same place and have close enough ways of doing those things to make it work. If you are having problems being your true self or knowing your real self in relationships, doing a little self evaluation or even a little therapy might be helpful. I love the work I do and I know that if we truly seek to change and honestly look at ourselves, Heavenly Father will show us what to work on and how to do it or place people in our lives to help us with that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8099884500208564058.post-49753570938854018622010-01-13T16:40:41.397-08:002010-01-13T16:40:41.397-08:00Just don't marry a jerk. Simple as that. :)
...Just don't marry a jerk. Simple as that. :)<br /><br />There are plenty of good people out there. You are getting skewed results because you are seeing a higher proportion of crazies to normals by virtue of your calling.<br /><br />The squeaky wheel gets the grease and the problem-filled relationship gets the spotlight.Stevenoreply@blogger.com