cougar season in the grocery store

saw the yummiest guy in the grocery store. tall. dressed casual, but not sloppy. did i say tall? the cutest wavy sandy brown hair and slightly tan like he had just spent the weekend working in the backyard or fishing or something equally manly and outdoorsy. then i noticed the gun in the holster hanging from his belt. off duty law enforcement? why is that so freaking attractive(more on that later)? did i mention how tall he is? he had a little girl in the cart, but no wedding ring(just like me, had my 4 yr old niece with me). we were checking each other out in a civilized way-no lewd club type gawking. he was young. MAYBE 30. sigh. we were in different lines, but ended up out in the parking lot around the same time-i noticed how he was a total pro at getting the little girl into the car seat. no fumbling at all. i like that a lot. one last glance and i drove away. i can be pretty bold, but there is NO WAY i am walking up to a man with a child-he could just be one of those guys who doesnt wear a wedding ring OR is living with a woman he is madly in love with without the benefit of marriage. oh yeah- the case of michelob light in his car was a slight deterrent.

hookin up

"hookin up" was not a common phrase in my vernacular growing up. when it was said, it meant meeting up with friends. it became more common, but i was unaware of any explicit sexual connotation until after my divorce. i didnt understand why the guy i was seeing at the time got so irritated when i said i was going to "hook up" with my friends-some of them who were men. turns out that where he comes from and his "generation" (he was several years younger than me. i know, cougar.)uses the term "hookin up" as slang for sex-namely casual sex. one night stands and bootie calls. i stopped using the phrase completely just to avoid being misunderstood.
i mention this because i have been noticing my teenage nieces and nephews posting their "lover of the day" on facebook. they are too young to have lovers! what the heck are they talking about and why arent they ashamed to post such things for their aunt to see? i am thinking that like "hookin up", that the term "lover", might not mean to them what it means to me. i will be seeing two of them this weekend and i am hoping to get the whole story on this "lover" business. if their spinster aunt doesnt have a lover there is NO WAY that these teenage kids are going to have one!

everywhere

forgive the frequent walks down memory lane. music really throws me in the way back machine. the first guy i dated after my divorce(no cute nickname for him) used to sing this to me. this and "you are my sunshine". too bad he was an alcoholic frat boy(several years younger than me...this "cougar" thing keeps popping up, doesnt it?)that hasnt settled down to this day(11 years later). he was soooo cute and had the BEST southern accent that just made my knees weak. southern accents and irish brogues just do it for me. knowing that jake and calvin served in ireland makes me raise my well groomed eyebrows and my blue eyes sparkle.