confusion

mr jack mormon said something to me the last time he petitioned me for some pre marital shenanigans that i found very curious indeed. "you sure do love yourself, dont you?" is the comment he made to me. initially, i took it as the insulting barb he intended it to be, but after about two seconds of being pissed off, i replied, "how is it that you confuse self respect with conceit and self importance?" he had no reply, of course. he generally doesnt when i make a valid point that is contrary to his. i was just saying "no." not "hell no, you heathen, unscrupulous pig! i am far too good for you. i am pure and you are just filth." i dont even think that. i think some of the points he makes about premarital sex are valid. maybe even smart. if you are only considering the secular aspects of his argument. while i see some of his points, they are trumped by the spiritual. he just doesnt get it. i take that back. he does. he gets it just fine, he just rejects it and by doing so, rejects me. he disagrees with me-says i am rejecting him. sigh.

april fool

went out to lunch with an old friend today and when she asked me what was new, i said "nothing". then she asked if i had heard from mr jack mormon. that WAS new. well...old, but new-you know, hearing from him just the other day after months of silence. i recapped his usual schtick "can we please have sex?", etc and when she joked, "so did you go for it this time?", i looked her right in the eye and said "yep."
we have been friends since high school. we dont have the same standards, but she has always supported mine. i didnt judge her when she was having all kinds of premarital sex and she defended me when i was teased for being a prude. needless to say, her jaw dropped, but there was a definite gleam in her eye. shes been married over 20 years and the za za zoom has definitely left their bedroom. she was hoping for some juicy details. i smiled big and said APRIL FOOLS!!

more sex and the good mormon girl

i sincerely intended to write more on yesterday's entry regarding sex. its on everyones mind. i went out with one man who told me he agreed with the law of chastity "in theory",but thought the church should alter its stance for divorced persons since they were previously sexually active. i personally think that is crazy. i understand why he is saying it. kind of. comitting to a celibate lifestyle after living a sexually active one is difficult. i just dont think that single members of the church(in general)try hard enough.i am not talking about living like a nun or some monk,but PEOPLE can we keep it zipped up? i need to do some research and post the actual statistics, but we KNOW that jumping into sex too fast is a BAD thing. it creates issues, none of which are good. i remember reading a study several years ago making the argument that pre-marital sex and co-habitation does not improve the odds for a successful marriage. quite the opposite. divorce rates are actually higher for couples who have lived together before marriage. i digress. i do that. ramble. get off on tangents. anyway. i think there are blessings to be had for following the law of chastity. its not always easy and certainly explaining to your dates(even the active members)can be a nightmare. i hate the fact that even members look at you like you are a freak because you havent had sex in 10 years. sigh. during my time on the lds dating site i could just sense them clicking back on my picture, thinking that i must have posted a phony shot or a very old one at the very least because the reason i am not having sex MUST be because i dont get offers due to unfortunate looks or something.