perception

do you get a lot of compliments? i do. maybe not daily, but fairly frequently and although i dont think i suffer from horribly low self esteem, i just cant help but wonder why the hell these people are lying to me. i dont seek out the compliments, they come without any prompting from me and they seem quite sincere(even if i dont believe them). what i want to know is if i am so amazing, why am i a virtual man repellent? i see crazy women who seem to be beating the guys off with a stick. they have their men on short leashes and those men seem content to jump through those hoops. it that just unhealthy co-dependency or are they on to something? i know its easy to jump into something unhealthy rather than do the work required for a mutually beneficial and happy relationship. is that why so many choose it? i dont want my man to jump through hoops. i want to be happy and i want him to be happy too. is that just crazy? my expectations too high?