Saturday, December 24, 2011

gifts

what would you do if an ex gave you a very expensive gift? mr nice guy gave me a very thoughtful, very needed gift for Christmas. my knee jerk reaction is send it back, but he insisted that i keep it. i dont think i have been in this situation since jr high when my 8th grade boyfriend tried to give me a "diamond" necklace. i knew it cost about 50 bucks because i had seen it at the store. a 50 dollar gift when you are in 8th grade(in 1982, no less)is huge. my parents made me return it. i dont feel a particular obligation to return mr nice guys gift, but considering my recent revelation that i am still in love with dick(of tom dick and harry), it seems weird.
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7 comments:

  1. MidwayedancerDecember 24, 2011 at 8:25 PM

    ... I don't see any harm in keeping it...

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  2. noybDecember 24, 2011 at 9:40 PM

    ok-good. i really thought i would get a bunch of "you have to return it!" type comments. thanks for chiming in!

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  3. annaDecember 25, 2011 at 5:23 PM

    Keep it. Merry Christmas!

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  4. AnonymousDecember 27, 2011 at 10:03 AM

    This actually happened to me this Christmas too. My ex gave me a diamond necklace. It's real ;) and it's beautiful. I don't have hard feelings toward my ex and I really don't want to hurt his feelings by giving it back. However, I don't want to give him the wrong idea either.

    I think that you have no obligation to give it back- as long as he gave it to you with the complete understanding of how you feel about him.

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  5. AnonymousJanuary 6, 2012 at 1:38 AM

    The only problem I would see what that is if you were leading him to think you were more interested in him than you are, whether before receiving the gift or by receiving the gift.

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  6. noybJanuary 6, 2012 at 5:22 PM

    it was given with the "explanation" that there were no strings. i was concerned about that, but he addressed it right away.

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  7. AnonymousJanuary 8, 2012 at 3:24 PM

    Then fine.

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