i know i am asking a lot, but more opinions please

ok guys-you have weighed in on the make up issue(if there are any guys out there who LOVE make up on a woman, please let me know)so now i need to hear your thoughts on hair.
i got mine chopped off a few days ago. it was practically down to my waist, but my super fine hair wasnt doing so well at that length. it would do even less than its usual nothing. it was constantly in a clip or a pony tail and even if i put in my best efforts, the results were mediocre at best. so i went to my trusted hair stylist(who hadnt seen me in over a year. dont ask.)and told her what i DIDNT want. no mormon bangs(hate those, so 1989), no inverted wedge(do you have to have one of those to get a temple rec nowadays?), and i still wanted to have some hair.
i have worn it super short before, but i am tall and i have broad shoulders and to me, i look like i have this little pea head when i wear my hair short. it might just be me OR i am totally right and its like when you have broccoli in your teeth and no one wants to tell you. they think they are being polite, but there you are walking around like a dork with too short hair. er,i mean broccoli in your teeth.
anyway. she ended up cutting off about 7 inches off the back and trimming the front up. it looks pretty similar in the front, but she added some detail to the back. it still is about 2-3 inches past my shoulders and it looks a lot healthier and styling it is so much easier and the results are far better.
so tell me guys-how much do you care about womens hair? msof would throw a fit any time i trimmed my hair. he didnt care if it was all split ends and yucky looking. he wanted it LONG. a woman in my ward trimmed 2 inches off of her hair and her husband got mad at her and said "whats up with the dyke do?" when she told me about that, it pissed me off so bad. to me it not only reflects ignorance, but an attempt at control. my dad hated short hair. he said women looked like refugees when they cut their hair. he liked to quote that scripture "a womans hair is her crowning glory". unfortunately my mom did not look great in long hair. they found a compromise, but he always grumbled.
a few men i know(all lds) dont care. they say as long as their wife is happy, they are happy.pretty progressive of them, eh? one of their wives wears her hair shorter than a mans missionary style haircut-it looks cute on her, but i could never go that dramatic.
is longer better? hair that is.