my date called me about 5 minutes before he was to pick me up to let me know he would be about 10 minutes late. he got delayed with his kids and had to drop them back off at their moms. i appreciated the call and didnt mind that he was a little late. i think his reason was a good one and for a mere 10 minutes, it could have been a completely lame reason and i wouldnt have cared. i think the key point here is the call. he was considerate enough to call and let me know. i liked that.
he is a nice man and i feel really guilty even telling you some of this stuff. none of us is perfect, but there has to be a spark, right? what i am about to tell you could be considered so superficial,but i think most women will understand. maybe not the guys, but i think the girls will.
he was wearing pleated shorts. with a cuff. that were about 2 inches too short.
I KNOW!!! right?
those wouldnt be so bad except its clearly a fashion mistake for his body type.
he was a gentleman. he opened doors-deferred to me for the movie and restaurant selection. he paid. all good stuff.
we saw "the other guys". it was hilarious. i laughed out loud through the whole movie and i rarely do that. he didnt laugh once. when we were discussing the movie after wards(a rare break from the normal topic of the night. more on that later)his only comment was "it was pretty much what i thought it would be." i think i have pretty good taste in movies. i dont like junk cinema and even though this movie is definitely not going to win any oscars, it was GOOD. it bothered me that he seemed to think the movie was beneath him and his theater major background. i hate snobbery of any kind.
we decided to go to the outback for dinner. the service and the food were good. we had an attentive waiter and my steak was cooked just right,but that provided little distraction from what we talked about.
the whole night the conversation never waned or broke down in any way which is surprising considering we only spoke on one topic. his divorce and custody issues. besides asking me what movie i wanted to see and where i would like to go eat he only asked me two questions: how long were you married and why didnt you have children. thats it. no where are you originally from(i asked him to try and get him off the divorce topic), whats your sign, or ANYTHING in an effort to get to know me.
i stopped asking him questions, but he didnt seem to notice. after we had eaten dinner and the table was cleared(he offered dessert, but i begged off)the conversation switched to our sa activity experiences. i got a little more input here, but he dominated the conversation with his stories. the stories were interesting, but i dont know if i have ever been in a more one sided conversation.
he is very good with dates and now i know the exact date of when his ex wife announced she was filing for divorce, the day the divorce was final, the date he went to his first sa dance, and a host of other dates that i wont bore YOU with.
he walked me to the door and i thanked him for dinner and the movie. a chaste hug and i was in the door and washing the make up off my face.
even if he wasnt still drowning in bitterness from the divorce, i dont think we would be a match. he seemed to have fun too, but for some reason, i dont see him asking me out again. if he does, i will tell him the truth, he isnt ready.