i am going to do this phase in two parts. i have more questions, but i dont want anyone to avoid taking the quiz because they dont want to spend hours answering a million questions at one time. thanks to everyone who takes the time to do this. if you are single(especially the guys, only one responded so far), please take the first single mormon chick sex poll- feel free to copy and paste the questions in your comment; makes it easier for us both! i really want to know it all, dont be shy, spill your secrets.
1-male or female
2-age
3-were you sexually active before your marriage?
4-if yes,only with your spouse?
5-did you clear it up with your bishop or just move on?-
6-if no, do you think it was worth the wait?
7-was there any adjustment period before you felt comfortable having sex and free of guilt?
8-have you ever had sex(intercourse,oral,etc)with anyone else during your marriage?
9- have you been tempted?
10-do you consider your sex life healthy and satisfying?
1-Male
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3-NO
4-n/a
5-n/a
6-Very yes
7- what does that even mean?
8-Hell no
9-where is 9?
10-Very much so, but it is definitely something you need to work at.
Do I keep the law of chastity? -Yes.
Do I think it is a relevant law? -Yes.
Do I think everyone should live it, Mormon or not? -Yes. It will improve relationships, save marriages, eradicate diseases, change trends for single parents and unwanted pregnancies, teach deferred gratification and self-restraint, etc, etc, etc.
thanks steve! so glad to hear a mans perspective. thanks for pointing out my missing #9 and the confusing way #7 was coming across.
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3-were you sexually active before your marriage?
no but I did go a little too far in one relationship
4-if yes,only with your spouse?
it was not with my spouse
5-did you clear it up with your bishop or just move on?-
I did clear it up with my bishop
6-if no, do you think it was worth the wait?
it was definitely worth the wait
7-was there any adjustment period before you felt comfortable having sex and free of guilt?
I never felt guilt about sex but it definitely took some time before we were any good at it
8-have you ever had sex(intercourse,oral,etc)with anyone else during your marriage?
nope
9- have you been tempted?
I have felt an attraction to a couple of people but never was tempted to go anywhere with it (eewww!)
10-do you consider your sex life healthy and satisfying?
yes--very much so
1-male or female: female
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3-were you sexually active before your marriage?: no, but i did have some close calls.
4-if yes,only with your spouse?: i had close calls with both my spouse, and others i dated.
5-did you clear it up with your bishop or just move on?-:I did talk to the bishop about it, but i think now it wasn't necessary.nothing i did was THAT rowdy. (a close call for me is excessive making out) but better safe than sorry.
6-if no, do you think it was worth the wait? yes, i am very happy that i have only had sex with my spouse, and that we both waited. it prevented a lot of unnecessary issues/insecurities. i don't judge people who live differently, but waiting was the right choice for me and my spouse.
7-was there any adjustment period before you felt comfortable having sex and free of guilt? no. but like a previous commenter, it took us awhile to figure stuff out.
8-have you ever had sex(intercourse,oral,etc)with anyone else during your marriage? no.
9- have you been tempted? nope.
10-do you consider your sex life healthy and satisfying? yes yes yes.
1-male or female: Female
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3-were you sexually active before your marriage? No
4-if yes,only with your spouse?
5-did you clear it up with your bishop or just move on?-
6-if no, do you think it was worth the wait? Yes
7-was there any adjustment period before you felt comfortable having sex and free of guilt? Not really. I had my wings and I could fly!
8-have you ever had sex(intercourse,oral,etc)with anyone else during your marriage? Nope
9- have you been tempted? Never
10-do you consider your sex life healthy and satisfying? Oh yes!
1-female
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3-were you sexually active before your marriage?
No. We had regular, passionate horizontal make-out sessions in my bed, but hands never went where they shouldn't and clothes never came off.
4-if yes,only with your spouse?
The above mentioned horizontal make-outs were only with my spouse. I only kissed one other guy before him, and it never got that passionate. And definitely not in a bed.
5-did you clear it up with your bishop or just move on?-
I never felt like I needed to talk to the bishop.
6-if no, do you think it was worth the wait?
It was definitely worth the wait. We had the best most comfortable wedding night ever!
7-was there any adjustment period before you felt comfortable having sex and free of guilt?
Nope-I felt totally fine about it. It felt natural, pure, and good. I knew we had waited and that it was the right time. (We had just been sealed in the temple and it felt really right actually.) Plus, we had been together for two years prior to getting married, so it wasn't awkward or uncomfortable at all. It was just like, FINALLY. I thought I'd be really nervous for him to see me naked the first time, but it was actually totally fine, he was, and still is, my best friend.
8-have you ever had sex(intercourse,oral,etc)with anyone else during your marriage?
Eww-no. I can't even imagine it. The thought of it grosses me out actually.
9- have you been tempted?
Nope. I still find people good-looking or attractive occasionally, but not to the point that I want to kiss them, or go farther.
10-do you consider your sex life healthy and satisfying?
Yes! The first year was a little rough because our libidos were different. (I actually wanted it more than him, which dealt a blow to my self-confidence because I thought all guys were supposed to want it all the time.) But now things have evened out and we're really happy in all areas of our marriage. (We've been married three years now.)
1-Female
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3-were you sexually active before your marriage? No
4-if yes,only with your spouse? n/a
5-did you clear it up with your bishop or just move on?- n/a
6-if no, do you think it was worth the wait? Yes, definitely.
7-was there any adjustment period before you felt comfortable having sex and free of guilt? Adjustment only in the sense of getting the hang of it. Never felt any guilt.
8-have you ever had sex(intercourse,oral,etc)with anyone else during your marriage? No.
9- have you been tempted? No.
10-do you consider your sex life healthy and satisfying? No. I now believe my husband was a sex addict. I felt pressure to do things I wasn't comfortable with, he had had several partners before we were married and he looked at pornography often -- both made me feel "compared". He especially wanted sex when he was feeling down (which was frequent), and when he was depressed his actions were usually selfish and inconsiderate... it was not much of an interlude to intimacy. I craved sex as an expression of love, which meant I wanted to be in a good place emotionally to be intimate, so in that way there was a conflict and it was hard for us to get on the same page. Trying for years to get pregnant also took it's toll and took a lot of fun out of it. However, when the stars and planets were aligned just right and we clicked, it was really great.