friends-not just no....HELL NO

i am so mad. mad at him. mad at myself. i am pretty sure i have mentioned the kid i dated a few years ago. way, way younger than me. a few dates and i knew even as cute and sweet as he was, it would never go any where. we just kind of fizzled out. no big deal. no broken hearts, no hysterics. we didnt really communicate much. maybe an occasional text or email. then he friended me on facebook. i was in it up to my eyeballs with mr ex man, so my attention was elsewhere. i did notice that his profile listed him as married(never gave me the heads up on that one),but it didnt matter. strange he didnt mention it, but whatever. about 3 weeks ago he calls me at 5 am. by time i got to the phone he had already left me this heartbreaking message about how he needed a friend. i call him back, knowing what he was going to tell me. his new wife(#3 and he's not even 30)had packed up and left him while he was at work. he tells me the very sad story and i think i know him well enough to say that he was truly a victim, but he loves her and wanted to do whatever he could to bring her back. i gave the best advice i could. suggested he pray, go to the temple, and just listened to him. sometimes 3-4 a day. cheered for him(and gave a good natured "i told you so")when she started speaking to him again and plans for her return were made. considering all of this, i was pretty surprised when he just dropped out. calls and texts stopped-he even stopped returning my texts. i was irritated,but figured he was concentrating on getting stuff together for her return and our "friendship" was morphing back to its previous state. while on facebook the other day, my spidey sense told me to see if he was still on my friends list. guess what! he wasnt. i was so pissed off. to me, this was a huge slap in the face. if he had called or text'd that he was paring down his friends list to make good with his wife, i would have understood completely. but bailing after the last month and to not even give me a heads up? not cool. i was going to send hinm a scathing email, decided against it, and just let it all go. 2 days later he is calling me to ask for my prayers for his wife who is driving long distance to get home to him. after i told him i would be happy to pray for them, i let him know exactly how i felt. he had the audacity to get mad at me! he attempted to make lame excuses for his behavior and when i wouldnt buy into them, hung up on me. he called about an hour later, but i wouldnt answer. his voice mail was all apologetic, but the damage is done. he was one of my few exceptions where friendship after dating seemed to have worked out. not any more. i am now stronger in my conviction that it just doesnt work and those who think it does are simply fooling themselves.