one of my guilty pleasures is watching reruns of
gilmore girls . on todays episode, lorelai is at the diner talking to luke and says, "all anyone wants is to find a nice person to hang out with until they drop dead. its not too much to ask." sums it up, doesnt it?
If only it were that easy...
ReplyDeleteI just read on another blog about a girl who wouldn't date a guy friend because she didn't feel sparks with him but really enjoyed his company and talking with him. Consensus was to drop the dude. Nice doesn't equal marriage for most people.
For me personally, there isn't too much more than finding someone nice that wants to be with me and I want to be with him.
i suppose the censors wouldnt let the original "and have hot sweaty sex" stand as scripted. :)
ReplyDeleteGilmore Girls is one of Aaron's guilty pleasures, as well. Except he doesn't feel guilty.
ReplyDeleteI love Gilmore Girls. And, yeah, it does sound good.
ReplyDeleteI think there is an over-emphasis on the tinglies. Tinglies don't last, and all they mean is physical attraction, which comes and goes. You don't have to be swept off your feet to be in the right place.
blain! where have you been? i missed you! :)
ReplyDeletecalvin-so glad you dropped by. think tori will scratch your back in church? one of my rm's taught me a fantastic back scratching technique, let me know if you want a tutorial.
ReplyDeleteHowever, most individuls are shallow... and mostly go for looks. It's depressing but true. We want someone "attractive". Even if it's in a small sense. You still need some form of attraction.
ReplyDeletebut the attraction will ebb and flow throughout the relationship,so you want the spark, the chemistry, and the tingles, but there needs to be substance to see you through the times when each of you isnt so cute.
ReplyDeleteDidn't find much to say -- I've read everything.
ReplyDeleteI was thinking about what I said yesterday while watching the BBC version of Sense and Sensibility, and Mary Ann's experience with following the cute and hot, and having it blow up in her face, and then ending up with stable, reliable, solid and utterly adoring.
I'm also thinking of the scene in Fiddler on the Roof where Tevya is asking his wife "Do you love me?" and, though it wasn't even a question when they were married, finding that they really do love each other. Being in love early in a relationship, and when you're young, is easy. Being in love thirty years later, when things sag and wrinkle, means a lot more to me.
That's what I'm trying to figure out. Cute is fun to look at, but I want a connection that goes beyond that. Someone to be connected to eternally would be great, but, right now, I'm interested in thirty years. If I start in three years, that'll take me to the age my parents both died at. That'll do for now.
longevity is key. who will stand the test of time while standing by you?
ReplyDeleteExactly. For that, I'm thinking about character and compatible sense of humor. I'm not sure about someone with solid character who would be willing to connect with me, but I think that's where the action will be.
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