whats up?

i hate when i call or approach someone to talk to them and they say "whats up?" its like "get to the point so i can be done with this conversation." its also a really casual thing guys say to each other to keep up the nonchalant macho bs facade they got going on. no man should say "whats up?" to a woman he cares about. just like a man should never say to the woman he loves "would you please just calm down?" like fuel to the fire. i would love to hear from anyone who has ever known a woman to calm down when addressed in such a way.