its really more like a loop hole. a loop hole that i created myself and surprisingly feel very little guilt about.
a little history. i NEVER watched rated r movies until i got married. then all i watched was rated r movies. msof was all about the rambo, die hard, and terminator movies. i just gave in. it bothered me at first, but you really do become desensitized to all the violence. i became unaware of what the rating was on any movie-i just saw what i wanted to see.
in 2006(i am so bad with dates, i cant believe i remember the year)my perspective started to change. i was becoming very senstive to the things i was seeing on the screen. the violence was just too much and the sex? dont even go there. i just couldnt deal and i decided to go back to my old rule. no rated r movies. i cleaned out my dvd collection and passed them on and put my friends on notice. they were all supportive. maybe a few playful jabs, but nothing really mean.
it was really a rough transition for gbf. we really liked the same movies that none of our other friends liked. we went to see american beauty(loved it)with 3 other friends and they HATED it. they were pissed that they even wasted 2 hours on it, but gbf and i loved it and couldnt stop talking about it. lets face it, most pg-13 movies are chick flicks and gbf is definitely NOT interested in those.
i have broken the rule a few times. for the most part, i regret it. like going to see sex in the city. what a waste. i used to love the show and i just really wanted to see how it translated onto the silver screen. not good. i also learned that you cant trust your most trusted friends when they describe a movie. gbf really wanted me to see forgetting sarah marshall . he kept telling me how great it was and how he really couldnt see why it was rated r. he said there was only 1 pretty tame sex scene and it really didnt take away from how great the movie was. i finally saw the movie and all i can say he was right and he was wrong. he was right- i liked the movie. it was really funny and very smart despite some of the stupidity. where he was wrong was that there was NOT one tame sex scene, there were a few, but the real kicker was the full frontal male nudity in the first 10 minutes. it was not fleeting either. i guess full frontal male nudity just doesnt register the same for a gay guy.
so i have broken the rule a few times,but the loop hole i mentioned above is this: if i have already seen it, i will watch it again. when american beauty comes on tv, i watch it. i know when to avert my eyes or take a potty break. i know its pathetic and truly stomping to death even the spirit of the law.